1 ... First way:
Some wives who are weak in faith see their husband's bad behavior and make contact with a non-mahram, then they start sharing their joys and sorrows with him, and that person also treats him with great empathy.
This sympathetic relationship turns into a first friendship and leads both of them to major sins, in which case the husband, wife and his sympathizers will all deserve severe punishment.
2 .... Second way:
Some wives are strong in faith but weak in courage. If their husband treats them badly, as I have written above, then these wives protect their honor and dignity at all times, but completely broken from within. They go, their laughter is formal, their smiles are formal, their speech is formal, their meeting and talking to people is all formal, they dim in the light of day and in the darkness of night. There are tears of blood, these wives live their lives as living corpses, and on the Day of Judgment, the husband of this wife will not be able to enter Paradise until he has accounted for every single tear of his wife.
3 ... Third way:
The faith of the wives who follow this path is strong but it also proves to be a mountain of courage and perseverance. They do not despair but worry. They consider their husband's bad behavior as a challenge to themselves. The husband is attracted to her, she does not respond to the husband's anger in front of her, she is patient, she has a very gentle and loving attitude towards her husband.
Before the arrival of the husband, she prepares herself like a bride so that her husband's attention is not distracted. She knows that it is not obligatory to serve the parents of the husband Staying at home, they prefer to weep in prostrations instead of weeping with their faces covered in pillows. They shed tears in prostration and ask for the return of their husbands to the Lord. Wet eyes, she puts her sigh in front of this Lord and asks for her happiness.
Allah does not disappoint them when they call for their courage and help, giving them the fruits of their courage, their sacrifices and their patience, turning their husbands' hearts towards their wives.
If the wife takes the first path, she will be humiliated in this world and will be punished severely in the Hereafter, including her husband and sympathizers.
If the wife takes the other path, she burns her own heart because of the filthy husband, burns her own blood, she will get nothing but hurt herself, but she will not be able to protect this patience and honor in the sight of Allah. There will be a great reward.
If the wife takes the third path, challenges her husband's dishonor for herself and works with courage and reflection as I have written above, then 80% of the wives succeed in their goal by the command of Allah and have a happy marriage. Live life.
I want to say here that every wife should take the third path on the bad behavior of her husband. Inshallah, Allah Almighty will not disappoint her.
I would like to say another thing here that if even a tear comes in the eye of any woman because of her husband, she will not be able to go to heaven unless she forgives him.
This is not a fatwa, it is the religion of Islam, where if a person shows his heart, fasting, prayers and all acts of worship will be slapped on the face, so go and get forgiveness from that person first.
A martyr who has been martyred while fighting in the way of Allah will also be stopped on the way to Paradise because you showed the heart of this man on a certain day. First forgive him and then you will be able to go to Paradise. When a martyr can be prevented from going to heaven, what is the status of us ordinary men today, so do not let tears come in the eyes of wives, otherwise it will prove to be a big obstacle in the way of heaven.
Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal gave ten pieces of advice to his son on his wedding night.
Every married man should read them carefully and put them into practice in his life.
My son You can't have peace of mind at home unless you adopt these ten habits in your wife's case, so listen to them carefully and plan to act.
2 + 1 .... * The first two * so that women want your attention.
And she wants you to show her love in clear words. So from time to time, make your wife feel your love and tell her in clear words how important and beloved she is to you. (Don't assume she'll understand, relationships always need expression) Remember! If you are stingy in this expression, there will be a bitter rift between the two of you which will grow over time and end the love.
3 .... Women have a strong temper and are more cautious than men. But she also knows how to take advantage of a gentle man. Therefore, work in moderation in these two attributes so that there is balance in the house and you both have peace of mind.
4 .... Women expect from their husbands what a husband expects from his wife ... ie respect, loving words, outward beauty, clean clothes and fragrant body so always take care of it.
5 .... Remember the four walls of the house is the kingdom of the woman, when she is there, it is as if she is sitting on the throne of her kingdom. Do not interfere in his kingdom and do not try to snatch his throne. As far as possible to hand over the affairs of the house to him and give him the freedom to dispose of it.
6 .... Every wife wants to love her husband but remember she has her own parents, sister, brother and other family members with whom she cannot be indifferent nor is such an expectation from her permissible. Therefore, never allow a rivalry between her and her family to arise because even if she is forced to leave her family for your sake, she will still be restless and this restlessness will eventually take her away from you.
7 .... Undoubtedly, a woman is born with a crooked rib and her beauty is also in it. This is not a flaw at all, she looks as good as the eyebrows look beautiful in a circle.
So take advantage of its crookedness and enjoy its beauty. If you ever find something offensive to her, do not try to straighten it out with harshness and bitterness, otherwise it will break, and its breaking will eventually lead to divorce. But at the same time, do not do anything that will hurt her. Go on believing what is wrong and wrong, otherwise she will become arrogant which is detrimental to herself. Therefore, be of moderate temperament and conduct matters wisely.
8 .... Disrespect and ungratefulness of the husband is often in the nature of women, if you continue to be kind to him all his life, but if there is ever a lack, then she will say what you have heard me to this day. So don't be too upset with her nature and don't fall in love with her because of it.
This is a small defect in it, but in comparison to it, there are innumerable virtues in it. All you have to do is keep an eye on them and continue to love and pay due respect to Allah.
9 ......- Every woman has some days of physical weakness. In those days, Allaah has given him exemption from worship, has forgiven his prayers, and has allowed him to delay his fast until he recovers, so be kind to him in those days. As Allah has shown mercy to him. Just as Allah has removed worship from him, so also in these days, keeping in view his weakness, reduce his responsibilities, help him in his work and facilitate him. Create
10 ... Lastly, just remember that your wife is a prisoner about whom Allah will ask you. Just deal with it with the utmost kindness.
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