But the bigger disease is that we don't take it seriously.
We do not want to discuss the root causes and its fatal consequences, do not want to find a solution to this problem.
We think that the one who died is hellish, his deeds will be such that Allah did not grant him heaven, let it happen with him.My life is going on,so I not need to look the problems of other people.
But the reality is something else, just as back pain is a disease, abdominal pain is a disease, so is depression a disease that seeks treatment, not an imaginary world ...
now the real respondent is What is depression? How is it produced, and what is the solution?
Our biggest problem is that we don't talk to each other, we don't understand each other living in the same house, your wife would often just want you to listen to her! ! You know what is going on inside him, your children, your brother, your father wants to say something to you, he wants to ask you for some time so that he can tell you the state of his heart! ! But you don't give up !! You don't let it take the dust out of your heart !!
When a friend of yours wants to share his feelings with you, listen to him !! And let him take the dust out of his heart !! Don't give him any advice !! Don't tell him no solution !!
And don't make fun of him !! Rather just listen !! Sometimes just listening is the next cure. Listen to your next inconvenience !! Share her grief !! Don't give him advice !! Rather comfort! Encourage! And see the appropriate time and give him advice !! And tell her the proper solution to her problem !!
For example, your son has had an accident, you start telling him as soon as you get home that you are like that, then you are riding a bike like this, you do not see that the next one is in trouble and he Just need your consolation Your advice, your advice can't fix it. But your consolation, two words of love can help in his health.
Man needs only your loving words in trouble, even if it is his fault, you should still say on this occasion that thankfully your life has been saved. Thankfully, there was not much damage, you see the appropriate time later, you explain it! Advise! Get angry! But just comfort in times of trouble! Don't give advice !!
If an annoyed person discusses his problem with you, he has no demand that you solve his problem! Rather he just wants to tell you that my problem is you listen to him !! Make sure of it !! Feel his grief !! Share your grief yourself !! And just say: Yes man you are right !! So really in trouble But don't worry! God will improve !!
One thing to keep in mind is that depression is not based on poverty or sin, how many rich people, how many pious people are suffering from this deadly disease !! Professors, scholars, educated people and even scholars and students are victims of it.
The real cause of depression is not giving time to your family, your loved ones ... Just as people living in the same house live together physically, so does mental harmony and familiarity with each other's ideas.
Let me illustrate with an example: There was a time when parents understood our troubles, our desires without speaking to us, they could recognize by their faces whether the children were happy or in trouble. Today the child's mood is off, he himself says that I am in trouble, then the parents say: you have a mobile, the car has taken you, you have been admitted to a good school but your mood is not right?
The request is that the actors also have cars and bungalows, so why are they committing suicide ?? The real problem is that no one close to them supported them in the time of trouble !!
Do you think that money can solve people's problems? By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive.
You see! In the past, couples would sit together, gossip, make fun of children, and today ... when a couple is in the same car, in the same room, at the same table, there is a deep silence, They are connected to their mobile phones, Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram ... They have connections from all over the world, they have things to do but nothing to do with each other ....
Don't you think we are going in the wrong direction?
Don't you think that we are pushing our children into the torment of depression with our own hands ??
Please have mercy on yourself! Have mercy on society! Have mercy on your children!
Get out of the shell of social media! And embrace yourselves! Give them time!
So that you will not regret seeing his hanging body tomorrow !!
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